I am not here to say that having a penis isn’t difficult…..but I can not write about what I know nothing about. I do however, know about the struggles of having a vagina just not emotionally, intellectually but physically as well. Sometimes we forget just how amazing a vagina is….and the struggles and extremes we go through having one.
Let’s just think about this statement…..let’s talk about the physical aspect of it all. When you have a vagina you have to worry about your pH balance. Yes!! A vagina has a pH level …..there is a whole vulvovaginal ecosystem inside of a vagina!! Which if you don’t watch what you wash yourself with, what type of underwear and clothes you wear, what kinds of medications or supplements you take, what type of food you eat and don’t forget that whole pee and clean down there after sex thing…..can seriously throw it all off balance!!! When it is thrown off balance you then have a whole range of other issues down there…..I’ll just say two words……Yeast Infection…..we will leave it at that….even though that is just one thing that can happen when the balance is off whack!!
Let’s talk about that thing that everyone cringes at….that time of the month. Yes that amazing once in a month time where for five to seven days (that’s if you have a regular cycle) you feel as if your life is being drained from you while taking your will to live along with it…..at times. This time of the month brings about a whole other issue……what type of menstrual tools you use. This includes carefully calculating the type of flow you have (are you going to have a heavy day? Maybe regular?!) with the percentage of activity you will be doing (are we going to be walking a lot today? Sitting? Maybe swimming?) while adding what type of clothes you will be wearing. (this is crucial! You do NOT want to be wearing the wrong type of clothing because then you increase your chances of having an accident!!! Which we all despise!! Once you figure out the answers to flow+activity/clothing=what kind of day-10% chance of accident……you then have the ultimate question……to pad or to tampon? Both of these decisions then require a whole other equation!!! Do you wear a sport Tampon? Do you wear the heavy or regular? Do I wear extra long or regular? Wings or no wings? DO YOU SEE WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT!!! 😱😱 Okay so let’s drop that subject but you are understanding what I am trying to get across!!! And this is every month!!! Tell your body decide it’s going to go into menopause!!
Then there is…….Waxing……..need I say more!!! Women will go to extremes to meet what is socially acceptable of what a vagina should look like……so we will go get hot wax all over the very sensitive lower region……to which they put cloth or whatever else they use……to make ripping the hair from it’s follicle easier……yes…..it is painful!!! Yes!!! Many, Many women do this!!!! Why???? Because it is something that must be done to ensure that we fit inside of what is “socially” acceptable for our vagina’s appearance.
Another physical aspect of having a vagina is going to your check ups. Now I know guys have to go too but there is a big difference between getting your balls held while coughing , from having your legs spread for a total stranger to stick this uncomfortable tool (speculum) into your vagina so they can look inside of you while they scrape your vagina to ensure that you have no nasty or horribleness going on down there. (I am not complaining, I am grateful for these medical procedures because of how they can save a woman’s life…..but I just want to bring to light the lengths we have to go to have a vagina.) So I am sorry if I don’t feel that getting a little squeeze and a cough is so hard!! I mean even if we are talking about when the doctor checks the man’s colon..👆 in the butt hole…….I don’t know still doesn’t seem to be the same comparison.
Last but not least there is childbirth. It’s okay people can roll their eyes but birthing a child is one of the biggest struggles of having a vagina. I mean you have a whole person growing in it!! Over nine months that life just get’s bigger and bigger….totally depending on you and your vagina to keep it safe and healthy. There are the times filled with heartburn, sleepless nights, kicks to the ribs and feeling miserable because you feel as if you are as big as a house….but there are also the moments of joy. You feel that life growing inside of you, you can feel the baby move around, have the hiccups and the pure wonder of it all can be overwhelming. Then there is the whole birthing situation. I will not go into detail but it is exhausting, painful and at times feels as if your vagina will never be the same because it just pushed a 7 to 10 lb baby with a head the size of a watermelon out of it. Just for your information…..it usually ends up just fine.
So here we are! There are so many other physical issues of having a vagina! I mean these are just a few that I’ve had experience in and know something about. There are such things as losing your vagina, having a hysterectomy, which to me seems so traumatic!! The sense of loss, the aftermath of what happens to a woman’s body after this huge loss, to me would be indescribable!! But what I have come to realize is having a vagina is bad ass!! A vagina is a complete gangster!! I mean does a penis have a whole vulvovaginal ecosystem that for the most part regulates it’s self and stays healthy??? Does a penis have the capacity to incubate a whole life in it? The answer is NO!! I mean being able to pee whip it out and pee where ever, when ever is cool…..but other then that? Eh……..These are just a few things that an amazing vagina can do!!!! It is a struggle to have a vagina but it is an amazingly, awarding struggle.